From the moment we are born, we are constantly searching and learning. It's human nature to want to develop and grow. It's a method of survival that we naturally follow.
From the age of 7, we start to have a deeper understanding of our emotions and feelings. It's difficult if you are not in a safe and nurturing environment where you can develop safely or at your own speed.
Some of us are forced into adulthood before we are mentally capable or some of us are held back but Psychologists have agreed that there is a section of ages that are a general guide for life.
Pulling up roots - ages 18 - 22 - Childhood is ended, and this is when children move out of their childhood home or find their way in life, whether through unemployment or education.
The 20's - This is when we've been independent from our family and we learn what life is like as an individual. Leaving education and working allows you to explore and get an understanding of their true values and beliefs. It is at this stage that we start to seek more meaningful relationships.
The Demanding 30's - This can be a challenging time for people. Their goals and dreams from the 'pulling up roots' stage have changed, they understand responsibility and can struggle to manage all areas. This can lead to rash decisions and some people reach crisis point.
Re-rooting - ages 40-45 - By this point the crazy growing family has been established and personal circumstances are changing. Some relationships or friendships may not have progressed and a sense of being alone may develop. Sometimes learning to give yourself time and love makes people feel pushed away.
This is where we decide what is worth our energy and what we want. We question our lives in a way of 'Are we doing everything we can?' and 'Are we happy?' The problem with this is people are recalled to a time when they were free and single, a time when life was easier and they behave in a manner that suited them, when they were at the age they longed for and sometimes they can't get back.
Come Back. Not everyone experiences all of the stages. If they have been in a very simple environment they will continue doing so until they realise they are missing something in their life. This is where all the dreams and goals of roots and the 20's can become a firm project or a complete re-design of a person.
The Freestyle 50's - The mature decade is where adulthood and freedom can begin.
The Selective 60's - This is the point when life should be slowing down and more personalised time is taken.
The 70's - These are the memory years. A new generation has been born and family stories can be passed down. This is where the wisdom of age comes into effect, and we try to teach those younger than us all of the things we did wrong so that they could be better and avoid our mistakes!
The 80's - This is a stage where acceptance of everything is achieved. By the time you are 80 so much has already happened and changed in your life. You can look back and just be thankful that you have survived. You can look back and be happy at the memories you've made, you can look back and see all the positive changes you made to your own and other people's lives.
We have amazing lives, but sometimes we struggle to get to grips with parts of them! If you'd like to discuss wherever you are in life, book your FREE Discovery Call and see how I can help.
Jo xx