Now I'm sure you're looking at that and thinking 'What on earth is she banging on about now?' but how we use language and how we talk to ourselves is such an important thing.
At some point, someone has told us we weren't good enough and we've kept those words with us, it's our internal monologue that we live by and it can be very damaging to our mental health.
Things that we might say are:
"You're not good enough"
"You are useless"
"You'll never achieve that"
There's lots more, but you understand where I'm going here, I hope? I will try to explain it in a way that helped me...
Now I can't draw or paint. I'm not artistic at all and my sketches make my family laugh at me, but who am I comparing myself to? How long have I dedicated to getting better? Did I take someone's criticism and allow it to create the narrative of my life?
This gets interesting when the lightbulb goes off above your head and when you suddenly start seeing that the things people told you were your downfall is actually your key to freedom!
I grew up being constantly accused of 'over-analysing' everything, always reading too much into people's actions. It's funny that I'm now a Psychotherapist and I do it for a living. If I had seen, or anyone else had seen that negative as a positive I may have been where I am a hell of a lot sooner and without having all the trauma in between. My skill of reading people and the need to find answers pushes me to offer the best service I can to my clients, and it all changed when I took everything that was 'bad' about me and used it for something good.
This therapy isn't good on its own - it works amazingly well with Shadow Work, Hypnosis and CBT - it's like re-wiring a laptop or removing material from an outfit that isn't needed. It's working with that you have to be the best you can be, using the weakness to be your strength.
We need to learn not to allow people's personal judgements on us to create the future we end up in. It's down to us to prove those people wrong and to live the best goddamn life we can in spite of those who've tried to held us down. It's changing the narrative from 'I have to' or 'I must' to 'I get to' or 'I'm able to'. When we change the words we use we can change our lives.
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Jo x